You are using an outdated browser. Please upgrade your browser to improve your experience and security.

Skip to main
Blog

Valentine's Day and the Power of Affirmation

BY: Trevor News
Donate

Many of us may think of the obligatory V-Day dinners with a romantic partner and exchanging candy at work and school, but we don’t often think about affirming love during the holiday. During the first week of February, The Trevor Project invited ten incredible LGBTQ+ young people on set in Pasadena to capture their stories for our 2024 Pride campaign. Members of the content team had the opportunity to film with, talk with, and laugh with these trailblazing young people hailing from Albany to Jacksonville, Milwaukee to Nashville, Philadelphia to San Diego.

Directing the interviews for our social room, I had a unique opportunity to spend an hour with each of these young people to hear their stories. One story struck us during the casting: the story of Julia (she/they) and their mentor Holly (she/her). This pair met when they both attended a hearing to testify against the banning of affirming books in public libraries. (I was dismayed to hear that one of my personal favorites, “The Perks of Being a Wallflower,” instrumental to my coming out, was among them.) In her interview, Holly, who is a mother and ally to the LGBTQ+ community, simply said she showed up because she wanted to build a brighter future for kids like Julia, and her own kids when they grow up. Holly’s story really captured the spirit of Valentine’s Day for me; this affirming support was a through-line for many of the stories these incredible young people shared.

I sat in these interviews in genuine awe of young people who so clearly knew who they were and what they wanted. How could they be brave enough to know who they are, and follow through on it? A common thread was a supportive adult: the parent to have candid (maybe even uncomfortable) conversations with, the chosen parents who are always there with a reminder to seize the day, the supportive teacher who will advocate to the school administration.

As I think back on Valentine’s Day when I was their age, picking out Valentine’s Day gifts for the girls I thought I should like back (hot chocolate mix from Tim Horton’s being one of my low points), I couldn’t help but feel proud and a little envious of these young people. Of their confidence, their desire to claim their space, to trust that a net would appear. For many of them, they have that safety, and that safety allows them to be the incredible change makers they are: inventing apps, interning on Capitol Hill, starting nonprofits, organizing protests against bad policy. It reminds me that Trevor is that 24/7 support network: a place to turn for every single LGBTQ+ young person, any time of day. Supportive adults aren’t always there. That’s why Trevor must be. 

Show that love today with a Valentine’s Day gift to all of the LGBTQ+ young people out there who need support to be who they were meant to be.

Read more from
Blog

Peggy Rajski
Blog

The Trevor Project’s New National Survey Gives Us Crucial Insight Into the Challenges LGBTQ+ Young People Face

Written by: Peggy Rajski (she/her), Founder & Interim CEO at The Trevor Project When The Trevor Project started back in 1998, research and resources dedicated to examining the day-to-day experiences of LGBTQ+ young people were very limited. Today, while we still have miles to go, I’m proud we can point to how much The Trevor Project has contributed toward closing that gap. Our top-tier research program, composed of leading scientists and experts in the field of LGBTQ+ youth mental health, is dedicated to better understanding both the risk factors and the protective factors impacting this country’s public health crisis of…
Photo of Harper Steele and Dylan Mulvaney
Blog

Dylan Mulvaney & Harper Steele In Conversation

The Trevor Project sat down with transgender activist, actress, and influencer Dylan Mulvaney and Harper Steele, writer and star of Netflix's documentary film Will & Harper. In this exclusive blog, the two trailblazers interviewed each other about their experiences as transgender women and the rewards and challenges of living openly as their authentic selves. With the rights of transgender people being debated across the country, this conversation is more timely than ever. HARPER: You are so unafraid of being out front and online. Does it ever scare you? DYLAN: I constantly go between the desire to be seen and wanting…